Losing a pet is one of the most difficult challenges pet owners face, especially as their beloved companions reach the end of their lives. The grief that follows can take many forms, and it’s important to recognize that this loss is profound—our pets are family members.
Their absence can be as deeply painful as losing a human loved one, leaving an irreplaceable void in our lives.
In this article, our Clinical Director, Dane Walker (VetMB GPCert(SAS) MRCVS), provides compassionate guidance on what it means to put a pet to sleep. He will help you decide whether to stay throughout the process, understand what steps to take afterward, and explore ways to find support during these profoundly challenging times.
Watch Dane’s video, a guide to euthanasia:
When is it the time to put your pet to sleep?
Deciding when the time is right for your pet can be one of the hardest choices a pet owner will ever face. Fortunately, your vet is here to support and guide you through this difficult process. The focus is always on assessing your pet’s quality of life rather than simply the quantity of life, as it is our responsibility to ensure that no animal suffers unnecessarily.
We understand how deeply you love your pets and how hard it is to say goodbye, even when it’s the best decision for their well-being. Please know that you are not alone—our entire team is here to provide care, compassion, and unwavering support every step of the way.
What is the process of euthanasia?
Euthanasia involves administering a large overdose of anaesthetic, which allows your pet to pass away peacefully. If it is given intravenously (into a vein in the leg), the process is typically very quick and smooth. It’s important to remember that this procedure is entirely pain-free for your pet.
In some cases, sedation may be recommended beforehand, particularly if your pet is experiencing significant pain or distress. Our goal is to ensure the process is as gentle and peaceful as possible—for both your pet and for you, should you choose to stay during the procedure.
Should I stay with my pet or not?
The decision of whether to stay with your pet during euthanasia is entirely personal and up to you and your family. Rest assured, whatever you decide, our veterinary team will provide full support without any judgment.
Being present with your pet can bring them comfort, but it’s essential to prioritize your own emotional well-being. If staying feels too overwhelming, know that your pet will never be alone. Our vets and nurses, who are deeply dedicated animal lovers, will treat your pet with the same care and compassion they would their own.
You will also be given as much time as you need to say goodbye, whether before or after the procedure. For some owners, saying goodbye beforehand creates a lasting, peaceful memory that feels more manageable than staying through the entire process. Whatever choice you make, we are here to support both you and your pet with kindness and understanding.
What to do with your pet’s remains?
Deciding what to do with your pet’s remains is a deeply personal choice, and there is no right or wrong decision. Rest assured, your veterinary team will provide you with all the information and support you need to make the choice that feels best for you.
In most cases, pets are cremated. You may choose to have their ashes returned to you in a scattering box or an urn, allowing you to keep them close or honour them in a meaningful way. Everyone processes grief differently, and whatever you decide, there will be no judgment from your vet.
Our only aim is to help and assist you during this difficult time, making these painful moments a little more bearable.
How to grieve the loss of a pet
Losing a pet can hit us hard, some of us may even feel ashamed, guilty or confused about this grief. You shouldn’t feel that way, nor should anyone make you feel that way. Grief is an expression of love for someone that isn’t there anymore.
This doesn’t mean you have to do it alone or without any help. Here are a few words from our Clinical Director Dane on how to cope with the loss of your pet:
No matter what you’re feeling, reaching out to someone can provide comfort and support. Our veterinary team is always here for you, but if you’d prefer to speak with someone outside of the practice about your experience, we’ve compiled a few helpful resources for you:
Blue Cross – Pet Bereavement Support. They have self-help blog articles as well as a hotline of volunteers open every day from 8.30am to 8.30pm. Simply call on 0800 096 6606. If you prefer texting, they also have a chat available.
Cats Protection – Paws to Listen is also a very good resource for people who have lost their cat. They also have a hotline open Monday to Friday (excluding Bank Holidays) from 9am to 5pm on 0800 024 94 94. If you do not like to talk on the phone, they also are reachable via form.
Loss is always a difficult topic to approach with children. A myriad of questions may come to mind “what if I traumatise them?”, “are they not too young to understand?”, “is it best to leave it as is?”. We thus cannot recommend this very good storybook enough.
The Invisible Leash has been written by author Patrice Karst with the little ones in mind to help them better understand the emotions they’re going through as they remember their best friend.
Grieving, whether for a human or a beloved pet, is a challenging and deeply personal journey. It’s a process you should never fear or feel ashamed of. Grief is a testament to the love and connection you shared with your beloved pets’ lives.
We hope these videos and resources have provided you with some comfort and solace during this difficult time. Remember, you are not alone.
