Putting a pet to sleep (also known as euthanasia) is one of the most difficult decisions pet owners have to face. It can be emotionally challenging for pet owners. Often owners will have many questions as to whether or not they are doing the right thing.
As emergency care providers, we often hear the following questions from pet owners: “is euthanasia painful?”, “What’s the process?”, “should I be there when my pet is put to sleep?”, “what happens to my pet’s remains after?”
In this article, we detailed what the process of euthanasia is, but also what happens to your pet after the procedure and how you can then seek help and guidance during the grieving period. Please rest assured that we will always do our absolute best to make your pet and yourself feel as comfortable and supported as possible during these difficult times.
Understand what euthanasia involves:
Euthanasia is a medical procedure that involves administering a medication to an animal to end their life. The medicine is designed to cause the animal to lose consciousness and die peacefully. It is the same medication as is given for anaesthetics but just in a higher concentration. The actual process is smooth and painless.
Please bear in mind: as veterinarians and animal lovers, we will never put a healthy animal to sleep. It is our responsibility as well as duty to always seek the best course of action and the right treatment whenever necessary.
Consider the animal’s quality of life:
One of the primary considerations when deciding whether to put a pet to sleep is the animal’s quality of life. If the animal is experiencing chronic pain, suffering, or a has terminal illness that cannot be managed effectively, euthanasia may be the most humane option.
Consult with your vet:
It is essential to consult with a veterinarian when deciding to euthanise a pet. The veterinarian can provide guidance on the animal’s health and prognosis and can help determine whether euthanasia is the appropriate course of action.
Prepare for the process:
Before the euthanasia procedure, if your pet is stressed, anxious or in pain, then it is often ideal to administer some sedation which can be provided before the appointment if needed. The vet will then administer the euthanasia medication, usually intravenously, which will cause the animal to lose consciousness and pass away peacefully. The process is painless and fast. As your pet’s muscles relax, they may urinate or defecate. Sometimes, they take last gasps even when they have gone. This is all normal and not a cause for concern.
Should you stay with your pet to say goodbye?
It is completely a personal preference. Being there at the last moments can be comforting for your pet. As a pet owner, if you are stressed and anxious, it is sometimes better to leave your pet with the vet. It is also acceptable not to be present as you can be assured your pet will pass in the loving arms of one our teams. They will comfort your pet as if they were their own.
Euthanasia is a difficult decision to make, and it is essential to carefully consider all of the factors involved before making a decision. It may be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a pet loss support group during this difficult time.
What happens after the procedure?
After the procedure, you will have to decide what to do with your pet’s remains. Understanding the options available to you may be helpful. It is possible to take your pet to bury at home. More commonly owners opt for cremation with or without the return of the ashes. A communal cremation is where several animals are cremated together, and there is no option to get your pet’s ashes returned. Alternatively, if you wish to have your pet’s ashes returned, you can choose a private cremation, thought this option may often prove to be more expensive. You can also select a scattering box or a casket, with or without an inscription. These options will be discussed around the time when the euthanasia is conducted.
When do you know the time is right?
As seen before, it depends on the pet’s quality of life. Regular vet visits towards the end help to determine the right time for you and your pet. The vet can also ensure your pet is not suffering. Our gift and responsibility to our beloved pets is to show them the care and respect to say goodbye at the right time to reduce unnecessary suffering.
Here are some other indications of when the time may be right:
- Inability to stand.
- Problems breathing.
- Advanced diseases that cannot be cured.
- Pain that cannot be controlled with medication.
- Poor bodily condition.
When you feel the time is right, spending some quality last time and coming together as a family to say goodbye is a very healthy way to prepare yourself and your pet for what’s to come. This will definitely help you during the grieving process.
Where can I find grievance support after losing my pet?
Losing a pet can be a profoundly emotional and challenging experience, and it is normal to experience feelings of grief and loss. If you are struggling with the loss of a pet, there are many resources and support options available to help you cope with the grief:
Veterinary clinics: Many veterinary clinics offer support and resources to pet owners grieving the loss of a pet. Some clinics may have a bereavement counsellor or support group available or can refer you to a local support group or counselling service.
Support groups: Many support groups are available for pet owners who are grieving the loss of a pet. These groups may be held in person or online, providing a safe and supportive environment for people to share their feelings and experiences. For example, the Blue Cross Pet Bereavement Service offers a free and confidential service on 0800 096 6606 (UK only). Cat Protection offers a Paws to Listen grief support service.
Reach out to friends and family: In many ways, people struggle with losing a pet because they were part of their family. You should never feel ashamed to grieve them in the same way as losing a family member.
Professional counselling: If you are struggling to cope with your grief, consider seeking the help of a professional counsellor or therapist. A mental health professional can provide support and guidance as you navigate your feelings of loss and grief.
Self-care: Taking care of yourself is essential during this difficult time. Consider engaging in activities that bring you comfort and relaxation, such as spending time in nature, practising mindfulness or meditation, or engaging in a creative hobby.
Try to remember the good times with your pet. Do not dwell on perceived suffering or guilt of any decisions towards the end of life.
Sometimes, it is right to get another pet straight away; sometimes, it takes several years to feel ready for another pet. Do not feel guilty about getting a new pet, even if they are an emotional replacement for your lost pet, as you will grow to love your new family member in their own right.
Remember that grief is a normal and natural response to loss, and it is essential to allow yourself the time and space to process your feelings. The fact that you are hurting shows that you cared for and loved your pet; this indicates that your pet has had a loving and cared-for life, which is a painful yet positive sign. Remember the good times; give yourself time.
Don’t be afraid to seek support from others, and engaging in self-care can help you navigate your grief and find healing.
